“It’s not about dreams, it’s about alignment.”
I recently heard this phrase and it really struck a chord.
There is a lot of visible reverse engineering going on in the world at the moment, with a collective dismantling of perceptions that is slowly unravelling as we go about our day.
A central focus is emerging around the importance of mental health, as we look into new ways to support the wellbeing of humanity amongst the changing landscapes of a global pandemic.
This idea of reverse engineering has of course always been happening in the forming and destroying of societies throughout time, but at the moment, there is a tangible visibility that feels inspirational for possibilities of change. What with larger scale movements such as Black Lives Matter, as well as grassroots organisations - humans are building the foundations for what is to come next.
What landed for me is that chasing dreams is an external process, and ironically although humans are designed to evolve through desiring change on some level, this striving can make the body and mind feel like it has to do something, rather than be and rest in what it already is.
The polarities of alpha, the seeker and omega, the receiver meet to dance.
The movement quality of chasing creates the energy of trying to get somewhere or running after something as if you are behind it,
an out of reach-ness ensues where someone feels like they might ‘lose’…
But this is the old paradigm misunderstanding of what it is to feel driven in life or at work, and in welcoming our dreams into being. It’s driven by unhealthy patterns of the chase, and it’s old because it’s not resonating with what now feels good for the future sustainability of the earth.
When we figure out ways to feel in alignment with ourself before anything else, this is the flow zone. This is when a sense of purpose rises like a phoenix, a clicking in sensation is felt, a meaningful lightbulb turns on, and an inner or outer competing can subside.
When we’re in emotional, psychological and vibrational alignment, this is the magnetism of being a creative individual, where a stable sense of calm signals a deeper state of wellbeing within work, relationships and life in general.
This is where the space for dreams to fall into your pathway appear, without trying, simply because they’re the same resonance as you in that moment.
The other day, I was getting ready for a zoom workshop about the inner critic, so naturally my mind started to go there and my critic started having all sorts of weird and unhelpful ramblings just to show itself clearly to me.
Some days it can be like a silent assassin, so in many ways I was enjoying the loudness.
I started humming and singing to disrupt the critical voice, and that helped my brain to focus on other things.
I started moving my body, dancing to change the shape of the situation.
Then, I began talking in French.
I had a whole conversation with my inner critic in French.
(And I don't even speak french.)
but it loved it.
I started laughing at how weird it is to be human sometimes and a new part of this inner saboteur relationship started to emerge, and it felt great. In that moment, spoonfuls of the fear melted away.
The inner critic is a vital and vivacious voice inside us.
It’s a marker of what’s coming to the surface to essentially be understood and healed.
The loop can stop playing once it’s understood.
That's when the peace emerges.
The more we push it away, the stronger it wants to communicate
So changing the form of communication was fun and ridiculous and it made me think of Slava the Russian clown, who has a delicate artistry to draw out the beauty of ridiculousness to comment on how grief stricken and glorious we are to be able to feel and experience in life around us, when sometimes not much is making sense…
Some days it's not so playful, others it's the jester.
How can you relish getting to know the critic?
It can be theatrical.
And also, just the sweet medicinal message you are searching for.
Choreographer and dancer Martha Graham shares : “The body says what words cannot.”
This time of lockdown has been a chance to go inwards and take stock of how we are living, who we are choosing to connect with and our why.
It’s important to remember that there is no right or wrong way of doing things, especially when it comes to self care and self regulation during a time of collective evolution, but it is important to take the time to prioritise looking after our bodies, mental health and emotions.
Our bodies are the GPS.
Sometimes, when a monumental event happens, it can be hard to find the words to describe what’s going on, and that’s okay. If you do find yourself lost for words or grief stricken, or content or numb, allow yourself to feel it all as it helps to bring a sense of wholeness back to the body rather than suppressing certain emotions and welcoming others.
Returning to the foundations of breathing, moving the body and allowing sound to pass through the voice in a non verbal way is a form of healing for the nervous system. It soothes mental chatter and persistent anxious thoughts on a subconscious level that may not be able to speak in words or sentences - think of it as nourishment for the Neanderthal part of our primal body & senses.
Here are two simple breath & voice exercises to calm the nervous system and help settle anxious energy or feelings :
1. Box breath - this technique is used with navy seals and people in stressful settings. Find a comfortable position to sit or stand and allow your body to rest as you welcome your natural breath. Inhale for four counts, pause for four counts, exhale for four counts and pause for four counts - your breath will paint a square shape of equal sides. Repeat this as many times as you want until you feel the body reset and a deeper sense of calm.
2. Hum. Choose three spaces in the body, for example - your feet, your lower back and your head. Breathe in and then exhale the humming sound into an area of the body, allow it to vibrate and change. Start by humming x10 repetitions for each space and move on. If you feel like you want to tone more into one space, listen to your body and follow the impulse.
Choose a pleasurable activity to do afterwards, let yourself journal, call a trusted friend, make a cup of tea and allow some time for integration.